yep today started with visiting my parent's grave, with crying there also some then also replacing the wooden craft there writing his info with some carpenter created one (its required to await some months to make the grave (with marble stones etc) and since my brother told he would come and have built it. we initially wanted to have built it now and investigated some grave types from:  https://www.huzurmezar.com/  but then later told that its required to await some time to have soil settle and also that my brother told he would come and have help building of grave etc so currently there is some basic grave setup there with bricks etc but not marbe stuff present yet.

I next time would go, would also go with some coffee and would drink coffeewith my dad to chitchat how life is going etc etc.  (and even would pour some coffe to his soil) (since my dad loved to drink coffee in mornings  but in chemotherapy he stopped drinking mostly but rarely drank)